Comments on: Writing from Home http://www.roughtheory.org/content/writing-from-home/ theory in the rough Fri, 30 Jul 2010 08:54:32 +1000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: N Pepperell http://www.roughtheory.org/content/writing-from-home/comment-page-1/#comment-23441 N Pepperell Tue, 08 Jan 2008 23:36:47 +0000 http://www.roughtheory.org/content/writing-from-home/#comment-23441 He's three and a half - and he does something a bit like the narrativising tantrums thing as well: when he wants to do something, and the condition of doing it is that he not behave in some way he's been behaving, we'll have a conversation: "Now, if we go to the store, you'll have to do [x]. Do you think you can do that?" And he'll sometimes go, "No, I don't think I can do that". It's lovely - complete honesty at this age :-) (Although we do occasionally have the "imaginary friend thing" going - strangely, he doesn't blame things he's done on his imaginary friends: he admits that "he" did something, but claims that the person we're talking to at the moment isn't "him", but one of the various imaginary people he plays with... ;-P It's great. The imaginary person will talk all about how my son really shouldn't have done something - it's hysterical.) He’s three and a half – and he does something a bit like the narrativising tantrums thing as well: when he wants to do something, and the condition of doing it is that he not behave in some way he’s been behaving, we’ll have a conversation: “Now, if we go to the store, you’ll have to do [x]. Do you think you can do that?” And he’ll sometimes go, “No, I don’t think I can do that”. It’s lovely – complete honesty at this age :-) (Although we do occasionally have the “imaginary friend thing” going – strangely, he doesn’t blame things he’s done on his imaginary friends: he admits that “he” did something, but claims that the person we’re talking to at the moment isn’t “him”, but one of the various imaginary people he plays with… ;-P It’s great. The imaginary person will talk all about how my son really shouldn’t have done something – it’s hysterical.)

]]> By: Nate http://www.roughtheory.org/content/writing-from-home/comment-page-1/#comment-23430 Nate Tue, 08 Jan 2008 15:13:35 +0000 http://www.roughtheory.org/content/writing-from-home/#comment-23430 This is great. If you don't mind my asking, how old is your son? My wife works as a nanny for two small kids. One of the things she's worked on with the older (two or 2 1/2 years old) is to ask him when he's having a tantrum - "do you want to stamp your feet and yell, or do you want to do X?", to try and reason him out of the tantrum, and also to try not to give in just because he tantrums. One of the funnier effects is that sometimes when he's upset or when he's trying to exert power by his behavior is that he'll narrate what he's doing or going to do - "I'm going to lay down on the floor any yell!", "I'm crying!" etc. This is great. If you don’t mind my asking, how old is your son?

My wife works as a nanny for two small kids. One of the things she’s worked on with the older (two or 2 1/2 years old) is to ask him when he’s having a tantrum – “do you want to stamp your feet and yell, or do you want to do X?”, to try and reason him out of the tantrum, and also to try not to give in just because he tantrums. One of the funnier effects is that sometimes when he’s upset or when he’s trying to exert power by his behavior is that he’ll narrate what he’s doing or going to do – “I’m going to lay down on the floor any yell!”, “I’m crying!” etc.

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